It’s shameful but not necessarily shocking that a group of high school students in Georgia are struggling for the right to have an integrated prom. Here’s the story about the black girls and white girls who have been friends for a long time but are STILL not allowed to go to the same prom. Obviously it’s very discouraging to know that struggles with wildly racist notions are still happening in 2013. Read More…
Our belief systems are the bedrock upon which all that we say and do rests. Our beliefs are the filters of our reality. They also create our version of reality. And, they often go unchallenged – even if they are incomplete or completely incorrect.
With great glee I have recently learned about, as they describe themselves, “a revolution in the scientific understanding of human nature.” Read More…
It is so easy to be lured into the belief that someone else’s experience of family is better than your own.
As we try to make sense of the messiness of our own lives, it’s not uncommon to think that someone else knows something that we don’t know. Or, maybe they have something that we don’t have.
But did you ever noticed the shadow side of the white picket fence?
Does it remind you of anything?
Behind that fence can be the allusion that family and love is simple and clean.
I don’t know how important it is to answer this question. I do know that it can be helpful sometimes because how we spend our life’s energy is directly tied to how we have answered that question. In other words, if you consider yourself an athletic person, you’ll work out a lot. Philosophers philosophize. Thieves steal. Artists create art. Loving people put their efforts on developing compassion and loving kindness.
I learned a lot from the book GROWING UP AGAIN by Jean Illsley Clarke. She lays out, in an easily understood way, the normal stages of human childhood development. Not only is this important information for learning parenting skills, it is also a road-map for people who need to and want to re-parent themselves because they didn’t get what they needed as children. But the lessons go beyond the cut and dry. From this information, it becomes easier to forgive, to be less judgmental and to embrace an optimistic and hopeful outlook. All good stuff!
A few miscellaneous thoughts. Language is a reflection of beliefs. It reflects not only what we think but who we are. Directly and indirectly. It communicates via the content of the words and the style of delivery – the tone and selection of words. It communicates via the lack of words and how that is delivered. The delivery is received differently depending on the recipient. Yup, it takes awareness to communicate effectively. The same words ring differently depending on a wide range of different circumstances.
These are my thoughts about the different stages that individuals might pass through in response to being oppressed. I don’t think everyone necessarily goes through each stage. Some people leap passed a stage. Other people get stuck at a stage and never move beyond it. Regrettably, it seems that only a few seem to make it to the final stage.