Tag Archive | family of origin

WHO AM I?

I don’t know how important it is to answer this question. I do know that it can be helpful sometimes because how we spend our life’s energy is directly tied to how we have answered that question. In other words, if you consider yourself an athletic person, you’ll work out a lot. Philosophers philosophize. Thieves steal. Artists create art. Loving people put their efforts on developing compassion and loving kindness.

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GROWING UP AGAIN – RE-PARENTING YOURSELF

I learned a lot from the book GROWING UP AGAIN by Jean Illsley Clarke. She lays out, in an easily understood way, the normal stages of human childhood development. Not only is this important information for learning parenting skills, it is also a road-map for people who need to and want to re-parent themselves because they didn’t get what they needed as children. But the lessons go beyond the cut and dry. From this information, it becomes easier to forgive, to be less judgmental and to embrace an optimistic and hopeful outlook. All good stuff!

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IT’S OK IF YOU DON’T LOVE ME

It’s ok if you don’t love me

or like me

or respect me

like I always thought you would.

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ABOUT HOW ALL MY PHILOSOPHIES TIE TOGETHER

ABOUT HOW ALL MY PHILOSOPHIES TIE TOGETHER…
I say I’m “freer” than many people because I often live outside of everyone’s expectations for me.  I create my own plan for myself which is based on what is real and what is important to me.  I don’t waste any of my energy on materialism.  I’ve trashed the sex role junk.  I believe in the sacredness of relationships but not the institution of marriage.   Everything is connected  – responses to family of origin problems, relationship with money, decisions about the types of relationships to seek and nurture, relationship with “things”, purpose, how much to challenge oneself, defining what is “fun” or “pleasurable” etc, etc.  It can seem like these are unrelated but I don’t think they are.
Everything comes together when it’s based on integrity and purpose.

ABOUT MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MONEY…


A lot of people use money to appear to be certain ways.   For “status” and all that.  I just don’t want to use my resources for any of that.

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REALIZING THE STAGES THROUGH OPPRESSION

         A shared understanding of how oppression affects people similarly in spite of differences in the cause of the oppression can increase understanding and support for all.
 STAGES THROUGH OPPRESSION
June 13, 2004

These are my thoughts about the different stages that individuals might pass through in response to being oppressed. I don’t think everyone necessarily goes through each stage. Some people leap passed a stage.  Other people get stuck at a stage and never move beyond it.  Regrettably, it seems that only a few seem to make it to the final stage.

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